#metoo, Too: Understanding the Sexual Betrayal of Boys and Men

Seemingly unending numbers of recent revelations of boyhood sexual abuse have included allegations related to the Catholic Church, workplaces, universities, the military, Congressional pageboys, Orthodox Jewish yeshivas, private and public schools, and the Boy Scouts of America, among many others. Concurrently, men in the sports, entertainment, political, and journalism worlds have publicly disclosed sexual victimization histories.

Research suggests that one in six boys has suffered unwanted direct sexual victimization by age 16. In order to treat this population, clinicians must be aware of the unique challenges male victims face in processing this trauma. This workshop will address these special issues for sexually abused boys and men. Particular attention will be given to the interpersonal core of sexual betrayal trauma and to themes of male gender socialization, sexual orientation concerns, effects of abuse by male as well as female victimizers; and cultural myths that interfere with men recognizing their sexual betrayal, disclosing it, and/or processing it.

The workshop leader has in 30+ years worked with over 2000 men sexually abused as boys or younger men. Examples from his clinical experience will illustrate many points made. 

This session was originally presented as a live conference session in March 2019.

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Learning Objectives

At the conclusion of this session participants will be able to:

  • State how male sexual victimization was viewed in the late 20th century vs. today
  • Explain how masculine gender socialization affects boys' and men's processing of sexual abuse experiences
  • Identify how concerns about homosexuality affect boys' and men's processing of sexual abuse experiences
  • Explain how betrayal as an interpersonal trauma requires interpersonal healing
  • Identify at least five myths about male sexual abuse
Course summary
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Presenter: Richard Gartner
Presenter Bio: Richard Gartner, Ph.D. is Training and Supervising Analyst, Faculty, and Founding Director of the Sexual Abuse Service at the William Alanson White Psychoanalytic Institute, which honored him with its Director’s Award for contributions to psychoanalytic understanding of trauma. He is the author of Betrayed as Boys: Psychodynamic Treatment of Sexually Abused Men (1999) and Beyond Betrayal: Taking Charge of Your Life after Boyhood Sexual Abuse (2005); and editor of Trauma and Countertrauma, Resilience and Counterresilience: Insights from Psychoanalysts and Trauma Experts (2017), Understanding the Sexual Betrayal of Boys and Men: The Trauma of Sexual Abuse (2018), and Healing Sexually Betrayed Men and Boys: Treatment for Sexual Abuse, Assault, and Trauma (2018). He is co-founder and Past President of MaleSurvivor: National Organization against Male Sexual Victimization, which honored him by establishing in his name an award for Clinical Contributions.

Dr. Gartner is a pioneer in treating sexually abused men and has been quoted widely in media outlets including the NY, London, and LA Times, 20/20, NPR, CNN, MSNBC, and CBS, among others. He has published op-ed pieces in the NY Times, NY Newsday, and NY Daily News and been the subject of a full-length interview in the NY Times Science Section.

He is a recent recipient of two awards: the William Friedrich Memorial Child Sexual Abuse Research, Assessment and/or Treatment Award, given by IVAT (Institute on Violence, Abuse, and Trauma); and the Award for Outstanding Contributions to Practice in Trauma Psychology, given by the Division of Trauma Psychology (51) of APA.

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  • 1.50 ISSTD Certificate Program
    This program is eligible for 1.50 credits in the ISSTD Certificate Program.


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